Friends for Life, Not Just a Summer or a Spring

After taking some time off to focus on my health, followed by a couple of weeks of technical hurdles (internet issues 🤦🏻‍♂️) among others (extended writer's block 😩), this derailed and delayed piece is finally here. 🙏🏻

Writing is like that, I suppose? We can't just write when mental fogs are clouding our brains. Honestly, though, I'm not fully convinced this piece has expelled any traces of them. Somehow, it was so slow, even slower than usual, getting back into my headspace. Also, the fact that English is not my first language didn't help, as I had to restart my thought process in a literal daze. But at least I’m well enough to get back to my regular programming. So, bear with me if this ever feels choppy. 🙇🏻‍♂️

"I Don't Have to Say a Word to You"

What did you just say? Did you think the title for this one sounds cool? Well, thank you. Even so, I won't take any credit for it. Such a poetic line only instantly came to mind while I was preparing the first draft of this. Or, to be precise, the post that split into two—the first one published precisely two months ago, with this one serving as the second part. Eventually, I decided to preserve the sentence as the title as well. 🤭👍🏻

Anyone who grew up in the 90s is probably already familiar with the source of that line. But if you were born in the late 2000s or later, the line probably doesn't quite strike a chord, despite having been covered by newer recording artists up to 2020. Indeed, it originated from a famous song. And this is the song I'm referring to:

(Source: Olympics)

Sarah Brightman and José Carreras performed this timeless classic during the closing ceremony for the 1992 Summer Olympics in Barcelona. That's 33 years ago, eh? I feel so old. Hahaha. 👴🏻😅

Andrew Lloyd Webber composed the song, with Don Black writing the lyrics. It gained more popularity due to the upbeat cover version by the Spanish music group Los Manolos. 🎤🎶

The song title "Amigos Para Siempre" also served as the grand motto of the grand sports event. If you're like yours truly, aware of even basic Spanish, that title should make sense right away. It means "Friends for Life"—a simple yet profound statement that mattered more than it seemed poetically. 🙏🧡

In what way? The 1992 Summer Olympics were a return to form following the end of more than 40 years of the Cold War. South Africa was also in the process of dismantling its Apartheid law (the new era, marked with Freedom Day, hadn't even begun until two years later). However, the country could already rejoin the Olympics at the time. It might not be wrong to say the world was in a "better place" that year, and the grand event symbolized a reunion of countries and all things good again. 🗺️🎉

Those were just some of the notable reasons many praised the Barcelona Games and why the legacy is still remembered to this day—including the motto and anthem, naturally! Of course, I don't have to say a word more about history. That's also not my field of expertise. Instead, this song came to light because of its theme: friendship. More importantly, true friendship. 👥🧡

"You Seem to Know Whatever Mood I'm Going Through"

Initially, the whole exploration of loneliness was the first half of this piece about friendship. But as you might have sensed or read, that belonged in its own space. Posting that first part was nothing breezy. And after finalizing and publishing it, I still ran into articles that further opened my eyes to the facets of loneliness, whether it's the ordinary or something much deeper. 😟

In this one, I'm shifting the focus to one of the remedies for such a heavy struggle. One solution to counter one's loneliness is by having a good support system. Still, as I also pointed out in the same post, this isn't as easy as it sounds. 🙄😞

People call themselves lonely for various valid reasons. One is the ironic lack of friends to confide in or even interact with. Via Big Think, Richard Reeves declared this situation the friendship recession. And let's be real. Nowadays, that has already stood out as a glaring issue. Making friends can be a challenge on its own. In certain cases, the choice to dismiss the idea of having any friends may even be considered acceptable—or make more sense. 🤔🤷🏻

Unsurprisingly, friendship also doesn't become easier as we grow up. Somehow, childhood innocence helps simplify the connection process. But maturing usually heralds the arrival of bigger roles, heavier responsibilities, broader focuses, which eventually push our carefree innocence away. Without realizing it, we start to feel we've aged out of friendship. Trying to relive those fond feelings may seem like an equally herculean task. 🚸🚫

It doesn't help that the modern world doesn't, well, "help" with that innocent desire. The world is not always kind to everyone, despite seemingly otherwise. Derek Thompson, also on Big Think, proposed that this era we're living in now is the Anti-Social Century. He does have a point. Over time, society has become accustomed to choosing aloneness. The advancement of technology has created a bizarre progression: the more it helps simplify our lives, the more it seduces us into solitude, whether we want it or not. 🤦🏻‍♂️🙅‍♀️

Such growth of access poses a second side effect. Much like how love has often been romanticized, friendship isn't any different. We've been conditioned by TV shows, movies, or novels—now only a click away on our palms—about how the ideal friendship plays out. There's a surreal sense of illusion from these works of fiction that may have polluted our perceptions, whereas real life doesn't necessarily behave that way. ✨🤩

I'm not gonna lie, I fell (and likely still fall, now and then) into that exact mindset. Sometimes, a random encounter with someone with such a sunny personality and charisma can put me in a frenzy. I instantly wish to be friends with that person, and, in that state of elation, I usually end up becoming too passive-aggressive. If this is a rom-com, the whole interaction usually (or at least eventually) leads to a happy ending as quickly as the next episode. But in actual life? Any relationship, including friendship, needs to be a two-way, mutual, and not one-sided exchange. ⚖️🤝

That's the thing, though. It takes time to let real friendship simmer in a pot, building up into a solid block. And by real, that refers to the people who will know what we feel, or whatever mood we're feeling, even without a verbal announcement from our mouth or body language. That kind of friendship feels somewhat impossible to achieve immediately. How could that even happen if people are too glued to their phones instead of observing others' physical emotions, anyway? 🙄🤳🏻

In most cases, instant treatment would not work for friendship, even if we live in an "everything is instant" world. Seriously, it takes mere seconds to "Add" someone as a "Friend." But it also takes the same amount of time to "Unfriend," without any warning, explanations, or a proper goodbye. Can we even call that friendship? More like Fake Friendship! Fakeship? 😅

"The Way I Feel and How the World is Treating Me"

Aaah, Fake Friends! That unique convergent variety DOES exist. They are people who swoop in, fast and furious, for the sake of their personal gains. If they have anything they need from us, then it's certain they are always around. They would be on our side when we're on top of the world, only to vanish without a trace once we're stuck in a rut. Some even rub more salt into our wound, as their intention to befriend us was never pure or out of the goodness of their heart. 😈💔

These devils in angelic disguise generally inflict more harm on someone's mental state than people assume. It's a blatant form of betrayal that casts and spreads doubts on the pure meaning of friendship. The phenomenon is so widespread that Psych2Go published a video dedicated to overcoming the negative side effects of Fake Friends.

(Source: Psych2Go)

I can attest to that from my experiences, having encountered different kinds of fake friends (regrettably, maybe a little more often than I would have wished 😣). Because of people like those, I once stopped believing in real friendship for a lengthy period of my life. It took a while to restore my faith in humanity. 😥😌

Still, that doesn't automatically mean EVERY friendship is bad, more so, evil. Friends come in various forms and shapes. Please don't forget that genuine connections can transcend species. Your bond with your animal companions, or even Mother Nature, is a form of friendship, too. 🦮🌅

But if we're limiting it to ones with another human being? As much as none of us will ever be a carbon copy of another person, the same fact ripples to how unique they can be as a friend. Each individual we encounter will offer a distinct style or flavor of friendship to the table. 🌻🌳

One friend probably keeps us updated through constant mentions on social media. Some may take days to reply to our messages, yet they always come through. Others take longer to check in (perhaps weeks, if not months!), but never truly drift apart. While a few light up our rooms with their sunny presence, the introverts think and keep us in their prayers from the shadows of silence. Perhaps they even overthink our well-being each night prior to sleep. I mean, that's something you can expect me to do. Ahahaha. 😅

Watch these short movies, starring the talented Lewis Pullman, as a nice example. In the poignant first movie, Guzzle Buddies, we can witness the varying ways people act under the banner of friendship. Some would go to lengths to be there for their friend, while others don't reciprocate that care in the same way.

(Source: No Budge)

The second short, The Voice in Your Head, depicts a different scenario. In this twist of a story, we can observe how—despite plenty of ignorant people surrounding the main character—one steps up above the rest as a good person. On top of that, there's a bigger surprise down the line. Someone so annoyingly critical and negative (depicted as the "inner voice" here) doesn't necessarily mean they are a fake friend. Instead, that kind of blatant, harsh honesty may be precisely what the main character needs.

(Source: Shorts of the Week)

Likewise, each of us has our own criteria for what constitutes a good friend. Maybe one prefers a person who openly professes their care? Who can catch our mood just by sensing the subtle changes in communication? It's also not wrong to choose ones who tend to overshare. They can be more appealing, as they orbit around us with sheer honesty and zero filters! Or perhaps the opposite of those is more desired: someone who may be emotionally unavailable? To connect in mutual silence that respects and values space and privacy more than ever, even if that might be considered a red flag in general. 🤔💡

In short, for every fake friend, there will be a good one, too! And eventually, we will know how to decide the ideal ones that better fit our personalities. The ones who will treat us with care, dignity, and heart—or the ones who feel for our feelings. Don't forget! NOT being a fake friend would, and SHOULD, still be the bare minimum in any option. 👎🏼👍🏻

"I Feel You Near Me Even When We Are Apart"

Like the multitudes of nature of its participants, friendship does not happen on fixed timelines or circumstances either. There's no dictating how it plays out. It comes and goes on its own accord. Some bonds happen almost instantly upon a chance encounter. It's as if the universe has aligned two soulmates at the same time and space. For others, such a connection may take months, if not years, to finally develop. 🕰️📅

Actors Sebastian Stan and Anthony Mackie met in 2013, in the production of Captain America: The Winter Soldier. In that action espionage movie, they acted as adversaries connected to the titular character. The characters' interaction soon evolved into a blossoming but budding rivalry that catapulted itself into one of the most iconic bromances in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Mirroring such a deep on-screen bond, Sebastian and Anthony have been close friends until now. They continue cheering and supporting one another despite being busy with their own projects. 🙌🏻🤝🏼🙌🏾

Writer and producer Tina Fey, with fellow actor and comedian Steve Carell, are a good example that helps prove the extreme. People might have assumed Hollywood's renowned would have been closely involved for a long time. They did star in a comedy movie together! Well, believe it or not (I'm being sarcastic 😂), they are human beings like us. In a recent interview with Entertainment Weekly to promote their new comedy-drama series, The Four Seasons, both shared how it took them not 1, or 3, but 15 long years to become friends. Despite their brilliance in drawing laughter from the audience, their shared shyness built an invisible wall that kept them at bay. ⛔😄

If both modern friendships above emerged from the glitz and glam, a completely different scenario occurred for Kosuzu Harada. Her empowering friendship with Ari Beser started through an uneasy, harrowing, raw connection that dated back to 1945. Kosuzu's grandfather survived the atomic bombs (yes, plural!) that decimated Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Ari's grandfather, on the other hand? He was the "hero" pilot who dropped the bomb. 💥😱

In a troubling era where people and communities everywhere are easily divided by hatred toward simple differences, Kosuzu and Ari prove that friendship flourishes regardless of race, language barriers, and painful history. Their unlikely 2013 meeting turned into a bond of trust and respect united by a shared dream—one that may not forget or forgive the past, but forge a better future for the next generation. 🕊️🙏

(Source: NHK-World Japan)

Besides race or language, location is often mentioned as a possible challenge to forming lasting friendships. Fascinatingly, that's not always the case. That’s no longer the case, thanks to technology. Good friends can still find themselves near despite being physically apart. 👋🏻💻

London-based science writer David Robson first met Palermo native, cultural journalist Alessia Franco, in a remote Italian village. The Mediterranean meeting was worked out merely for the sake of work. However, months later, that seemingly small seed of encounter sprouted into a deeper connection. 🌱🌲

Since then, David and Alessia have proclaimed each other as siblings. They have written together, frequently brainstorming ideas, and maintained a close connection. What's so great about this bond? The two RARELY met in person. They stay connected from the comfort of their homes in their respective countries! 🔗🌍

As the fifth, final, and finest example, it would be remiss not to include a much-loved religious figure who the world sadly lost on April 21, 2025. The late Jorge Mario Bergoglio, or as we've known him more as Pope Francis, was praised as a gentle "friend of the poor, the dispossessed, and the marginalized" by many. And that was not just sugarcoating things. Pope Francis equally encouraged Christians around the world to do the same—to be a friend for those in need, regardless of differences. 💛🌐

The late Pope Francis served as the perfect paradigm of the motto and anthem I chose as the title. How so? Anyone who followed the public Funeral Mass procession would notice one person who likely stole everyone's attention: French-Argentine nun Geneviève Jeanningros. ✝️

It didn't take a genius to understand that Pope Francis and Sister Jeanningros shared a genuine friendship, having delivered close to 20 years of services amongst the poor together. The late Pope even had a playful nickname for her, a symbol of her strong character. With that in mind, the Vatican allowed Sister Jeanningros to pay her respects closely. ⚰️⛪

Some stated it was an unusual exception, but I digress. That day, that week, the world lost a leader and an inspiring icon. However, Sister Jeanningros lost more than any of those. She lost her best friend. Friends for life, literally speaking, indeed. 👋🏻😢

(Source: The Independent)

"And We'll Share More, My Friend, We Haven't Started Yet"

Friendship is a complex construct, a concept that's continually tested through trial and error. The thing is, to some, it doesn't exist. No, maybe the more optimistic wording is "it hasn't started just yet." 😌🙏🏻

Circling back to the earlier points, true friendship has become harder to find. Otherwise, the loneliness epidemic I explored before wouldn’t exist, much less be on the rise. Would you agree? Trust has become a fragile commodity these days. To reiterate, friendship still counts as a relationship with others, without the added romance. It requires both parties—or at least one of them—to let their guard down and prepare for any consequences that may result. No doubt, it can be a scary process. While it can do good to our mental health, there's still the risk that it may hurt us instead. 😈😨

As such, I'm arguably NOT surprised that many, not just a few, are wary about it. Hence, they prefer the comfort of solitude, away from any possible drama. Well, there's nothing wrong with choosing that path, either! The kindest person doesn't always need many friends by default. Someone who seems like the life of the parties may turn out to be a pure lone wolf who only opens up with a select few, if anyone, at all. In fact, I've encountered plenty on social media who are proudly friendless and fine. For the same reason, engaging with AI services has also gained traction. Admittedly, it does sound too good to be true, as AI chatbots can be eerily supportive, attuned to the client's personality traits. On paper, at least. 👍🏻🤷🏻

But on the other side of the table, there are those who want, nope, CRAVE to have actual, physical friends. Alas, somehow, that seems like a daunting desire to fulfill to them. No matter how open they are to the idea, it hasn't materialized in real life. This fickle fact applies to any gender, despite the issue being more prominently reported among men. 😔🙇

The thing is, sometimes our minds are constrained by a specific ideal of friendship that ends up clouding our understanding of the matter. St.Denis Medical hilariously touched on this sensitive situation in episode 16 of its first season. 😉

Wendi McLendon-Covey's Joyce, the titular hospital's executive director, had this misguided perception of her acquaintance with Haneefah Wood's Megan. Megan, a pharmaceutical representative, approached Joyce as part of her work. However, Joyce assumed differently, thinking they were close friends, and not just business associates. Long story short (go watch the show, it's a delight!), the entire commotion with Megan over a new medical product helped Joyce understand who her real friend has been all along. 

While the episode was played for laughs, I think many of us may also relate to such an unfortunate reality, since we've all been in Joyce's shoes at some point in our lives. What I grasped and further stressed from that episode: we must train ourselves to have an open mind. As I detailed above, the type of friendships that can arrive on our doorsteps–virtual or literal–don't always fit with the image we prefer/have planted in our minds. The real deal can be completely different. By shifting our expectations, we may realize that, surprisingly enough, making friends isn't as difficult or elusive as we thought. Sometimes, it's already there in plain sight. 🤭🙆

In case you're thinking, "Easy for you to say!" No, once again, I wouldn't dare to claim or even pretend that I'm a pro when it comes to friendship. Quite the contrary, I've been in a spot where I actually lost faith in friendship–a fact I've openly mentioned earlier. Seriously, though, if I could change my views and believe in friendship again, then anyone, especially you, should be able to do the same. 👏🏻😀

There are various ways or methods to explore, which can help you plant the seeds of new friendships. It doesn't even require living next door, like those neighboring kids during your childhood. By optimizing the benefits of technology, you can build a bond and stay connected with someone from the other side of the globe! Who knows? That may even be your confidants for decades ahead. How about seeking and reaching out to an old friend, someone who left an unforgettable footprint on your heart? Maybe, they can reclaim their spot as one of your best friends in the long run! 🏆🥇

(Source: CBC Docs)

Of course, friendship is not a one-man show. It takes effort, even if it seems small and trivial, to keep alive. Kosuzu Harada and Ari Beser demonstrated that sincere, open communication can unite two seemingly opposing parties. Had none of them taken the leap of faith, trapped in the confines of their families' past, their friendship would never have happened. In response to Robin Dunbar's research about the pillars of friendship, David Robson and Alessia Franco jointly wrote, 

"Regular conversation–either face-to-face or remotely–predicts which friends are most likely to endure, but just as important are joint activities. Persevering on the same task appears to build a stronger sense of unity than talk for its own sake. Those joint tasks don't necessarily involve being in the same location, as our experience shows." 

Oh, but just to be clear, this isn't a master class on being a perfect friend. I doubt anyone can be one. Honestly, I will never consider myself as one. Perhaps even the opposite, as proven by the non-ghosts who have ghosted me. 👻😅👻

Just like you, I'm still working on my skills, slowly learning to, at the very least, be a decent friend to others. In fact, it's ongoing progress, a journey that can be as dynamic as a dream. You may never know if it's good or bad, maybe only a daydream in a delirious daze that doesn't truly happen once it dawns on you. 🏃🏻💭

We're all in this together, really. To try our best to be a friend to someone or welcome a friend. And once that's achieved, aim toward being a good friend. Over time? To grow and inspire as a better friend. You can start now, if you haven't yet! More importantly, you don't need to be a perfect friend to have the perfect friend. All you need to be is yourself and accept others for who they are, too. That alone is perfection in its own way. 😏💯

"Just Knowing You Are in This World Can Warm My Heart"

So, rejoice if you have people who want you as their friend. And trust me, you will know it when you do. Celebrate if you have a good person as a dear friend. Yes, you'll also know it when you do. 🙆🏾‍♀️🙋🏻‍♂️👀

But don't despair if you haven't found one. There's a time for everything. Patience leads to the right payoff, and good things come to those who wait. Stay calm and kind, and keep an open mind. You can start simple by paying more attention to your surroundings instead of your phone. Then again, maybe you need not look so hard, either. That one true friend you're looking for may already be a message away. 😉📱

When Don Quixote met Sancho Panza, he only needed a squire. Someone for hire, but not to be a friend. Then, over time, their bond began to grow, as they supported and changed each other. In the end, the loyal Sancho became the "perfect friendship" for Quixote, so much more than the Don could've asked for. Maybe your Quixote or Sancho is already on your side right now. It just needs time, attention, and a regular sprinkle of loyalty to let your bond with them evolve. 💛⏳🧡

The bottom line is that friendship may not be as magical as written in the words of fiction. And yet, a true one, at that, is also NOT impossible. Not every friendship lasts forever. That's a harsh reality we must accept and endure. But some, even if they often appear later in our lives, do. 📚⏳

When that happens, we will realize: it's a life-changing blessing. That friendship is real. And it is NOT a fairy tale. 😌🤗

"Amigos Para Siempre.... Means You'll Always be My Friend."

(Source: Andrew Lloyd Webber Musicals)

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Dedicated to my friends across time zones and continents.

Thank you for your kind friendships that have kept me alive through my darkest days.

Falling Into... FLU?!

Sometimes a well-designed plan doesn't shape up into the reality it was intended to be. 🙄

In my previous post, I mentioned how my draft was split into two. The first being that exact post, while the second was supposed to go up on May 20 as its direct follow-up. But as you can see and check, there was NOTHING posted on May 20, a situation also happening on other aspects of my regular schedule. 😣🙇🏻‍♂️

What happened? 😟

Long story short, my health has prevented me from writing or doing anything that requires extensive sitting in front of my laptop. I've been too dizzy to do so. 🤧🤢

You want a longer version? Well, my last April post—the one about stumbling on writer's block—was probably an early sign of this situation. But it got really bad around May 10, when I went to my cousin's university graduation ceremony. Things were going fine until we got stuck in traffic on the way home. My head felt really heavy in the taxi, and I got completely knocked down the next day. 🛌🏻

And, reckless old me, instead of taking proper rest, I occasionally went on a doomscrolling loop on Threads and YouTube. Hence why the issue is still happening until now. Ahahaha. 😅🤦🏻‍♂️

The symptoms seem like the FLU. Maybe it's something worse, though. One of my pen pals has been hounding me to have it checked. I'm pretty sure if he lived nearby, he'd have already dragged my stubborn head to the nearest doctor. 🤭

Well, in my defense, it's not that I'm a stubborn guy (even if that DOES seem to be the case, ahaha 😏). It's just that I've had this before and the doctors never gave a clear diagnosis. Doctors usually conclude that it might be due to "overthinking," which made me overthink it, naturally. 😰🤔💭

That does NOT inspire confidence. 😩🙅🏻‍♂️

Would you agree? 😑

Anyway, so FLU is the not-really-accurate last resort I've decided to name this condition, as well as for the title of this post. Really, though, I'm just here to explain my absence. Also to express my hope that I'd feel better soon, so that I can continue posting properly again on June 10. Fingers crossed. 🤞🏻🙇🏻‍♂️

If you're wondering how I wrote this piece? I typed it all in bed after taking a headache pill. 😅🤷🏻‍♂️

Oh, hey! That makes it my first post in this blog prepped and published from my phone! Way to go, me. Hahaha. ✌🏻😝

Okay, I spoke too soon. The headache's returning. See you soon... 😵

(Source: ChatGPT)

PS: I really should stop, or at least play less, on my phone and Nintendo Switch, huh? 😳😅

Forlorn but Not Forgotten

If this post were a Pokémon, then what you are reading is its Mega Evolution form. This has gone through repeated evolution since the first draft. And even a discarded part became a short post I published at the closing of last month. Shedinja, much? 😅

Although, if I'm being more precise, maybe a split evolution equally makes a good fit, too. 🤔

Think of it like how my first "Fool's Errands" about Pokémon GO turned into a three-parter (plus one). 😂🤷🏻‍♂️

But in what way does that apply to this post this time? Allow me to backtrack for a bit. ⏳

In March, I rambled—er, shared a bit about how certain connections, including friendship, usually change or shift like the changing seasons. That post actually had more details and examples that I had to omit for simplicity. I figured they might come in handy for future rants about the topic of friendship. Who would've ever guessed it would be repurposed so soon? And the reason came in twofold. ✌🏻

Wait! Am I lonely?

Firstly, it resurfaced after I watched this video from Psych2Go. 👇🏻

(Source: Psych2Go)

Note: That was a new version of this video from two months ago.

Generally, videos from this psychology channel are insightful and, in many cases, spot on. This one, however, made me go, "Huh?" And admittedly, not the kind of nice "Huh." 🤨

Nothing against the channel, of course. I suppose it was seeing the presented points, plus some questionable sources for the explanation, that triggered a confused reaction. Besides, around eleven days later, the channel released this Quiz that probably helped explain my defensive reaction:

(Source: Psych2Go)

My final tally fit in the second category: "Some Loneliness." 

While the result also made me go, "Huh," the explanation does make more sense this time. Excluding the contradictive "online communities might help you expand it" advice, that is. Because they said in the previous videos that online relationships "may point to loneliness." 🤔

And, indeed, that last point was what prompted my irked reaction, honestly. 🤨🙅🏻‍♂️

Most of my frequent interactions nowadays are with my virtual friends, whether they are my long-time pen pals or through messaging services. Everyone I know in real life is either super busy at work and/or new family, or they have unconsciously retreated into the shadows, away from social media. It is mostly my virtual friends who somehow stay present. And I know they deal with challenges in their daily life, much like the ones I know physically. 😬

Therefore, I might have immediately felt annoyed that my situation is called "Lonely." Unlike years ago, I actually no longer feel alone or lonely. 🤔

Like the advice on the Quiz said, online communities DID help to expand my circle. I even found actual friends who are there for me for no reason at all. 

We support and check in on each other frequently, despite the distance and different time zones. We may not be able to provide a physical hug in times of need. However, a simple virtual hug makes up for it. And, seriously, knowing and being repeatedly reminded that someone out there worries and thinks of your well-being and safety is enough to put my mind at ease. 😌🙏🏻

If that's not what friendship is? Then I really don't know what can be considered as one. 😐

As ironic as this sounds, they are generally more reliable and trustworthy than those who are near. Hence why I don't mind that "Some Loneliness" result. In a way, it IS accurate. 😅🤷🏻‍♂️

(Source: Psych2Go)

Wait! Maybe I'm not alone at this?

That said, it's super easy to assume that I'm the only one feeling a certain way. But this whole thing truly got me thinking. People are always connected, maybe even TOO connected, 24/7 now. Suffice it to say everything is ONLINE. 😶🤳💻

You've probably noticed it, too. People hanging out together, but everyone is glued to their phones, swiping—or worse, doomscrolling—through social media, checking out what their mutuals are posting? A family gathering where several individuals are giggling at a meme posted by a faraway friend instead of reacting to the lousy Dad Joke someone just said out loud? A couple dining at a fancy restaurant, but their minds are at their respective bestie's parties? There are people with millions of followers and mutuals online, but fewer than a few, or even no one, to talk to in person. 😦

In this digital age, there are A LOT of those! 😳

Doesn't that also count as virtual connections? So, does this mean everyone is lonely in a way? After all, it IS said to be a "sign of loneliness." 🤔

Surprisingly, that's not far from the truth. A 2023 Meta-Gallup research concluded, "Nearly one in four people worldwide feel very or fairly lonely." Heck, even Psych2Go detailed this situation called "loneliness epidemic" in these separate videos:

(Source: Psych2Go)

For the record, this situation was initially dubbed the "male loneliness epidemic." Still, I fully agree with this Medium post, offering a different and more inclusive perspective on the matter. Loneliness is a UNIVERSAL issue that affects ALL genders equally. 🤦🏻😮🤦🏻‍♂️

The forms and causes, however? They may differ. While men might silently struggle with the feeling of being unlovable, women must wrestle with society's often-bizarre expectations of a superwoman who handles everything perfectly. 🙇🏻‍♂️😞🙇‍♀️

Really, though. One common trigger unites both sides. Despite the "social" naming, social media isn't always positive for your mental health. It can breed an unhealthy level of comparison, drain away self-compassion, and drown people in a toxic mindset.

In other words, loneliness is THAT widespread. A distressing state, indeed. That's actually the reason that pushed me to write this. 😬

(Source: Dr. Writer Lady)

Wait! What's the second reason?

Your keen memory is not fooling you. I did say there were two reasons for this post! That other reason is actually the trigger that split the original draft for this into two (or three, if you count the April 30 post). 🤭

Marvel Studios' Thunderbolts*! 🤩

I'm not going to spoil anything about the superhero movie, even if you're probably already spoiled by the numerous videos on YouTube or online reviews. But one thing I can say—and many people have clamored for it already. Amidst the one-liners and the clash of cool, choreographed action scenes, the movie tackles DARK, as in, seriously dark topics. Mental health! 😨🤯

That probably won't surprise you if you know who the director, Jake Schreier, is. He was the executive producer of the Netflix series "Beef," which also spotlighted deeply STRUGGLING characters. Steven Yeun, who won an Emmy in 2024 for his leading role in that show, was even set to play Bob, an integral character in Thunderbolts* before scheduling conflicts due to the 2023 actor's strike brought Lewis Pullman to take over. Pullman made Bob his own with his unique charm, by the way. 🤩

Thunderbolts* isn't flawless. Some potentials aren't explored as much as they could have (which may be a wise creative decision to balance out runtime or pacing). Even so, what it nails right is its relatable portrayal of emotional turmoils and the darkness inside its characters, especially Bob. Sometimes it's blatant and requires no explanation. Other moments, it's subtle and quietly metaphorical. This scene from the trailer, featuring Florence Pugh's Yelena Belova, is a good example of one. 😰😣

(Source: Marvel Entertainment)

I'm no expert in psychology, so I won't pretend to back this up with the proper theories or scholarly research. You can ask my psychology major friend for that. But many therapists have praised the movie's bold handling of the subject, including the unexpected approach to overcoming it. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😲

Furthermore, to many audiences, such an internal issue had even hit home so much that it makes them "feel seen." I saw people crying while watching this movie in the theatre. And, honestly, I could relate to that myself. Maybe, like me, they understood why the characters behaved the way they did. Many others have also openly shared similar sentiments online. 🥺

That shared reaction made me realize that many people struggle in distinct ways. Mental health is an ordeal that many of us are facing. Thus, it makes even more sense why or how the loneliness epidemic could happen. Because, yes, loneliness is present in the movie, too. It's one of the clearer issues that Thunderbolts* does NOT sugarcoat. 😢

Wait! What if I feel alone?

That feeling you feel, FORLORN, is real. Forlorn is the cooler and more poetic word to describe that you are sad, abandoned, lonely, hopeless, or unfulfilled. But there's nothing cool or poetic about having it. Would you agree? 😓

Again, I'm no therapist, so this section is based only on my experience and others', be it offline or online. However, much like how the flawed and forlorn characters in Thunderbolts* find their way to "save" one another, that CAN BE YOU, too. 

What you need to do is reach out. Take a bold step forward, and find those who are real. And by reaching out, it doesn't always mean to other people. 🙏🏻🤝🏻

Maybe it's your inner self you need to befriend first. To face your internal demons that have been haunting you with despair, doubts, and daunting negativity. You may start with that. Or as my lecturer friend would say, "To not be too hard on yourself." To embrace your flaws and acknowledge your feelings as a valid part of you, instead of shoving them away like they mean nothing. Self-compassion is a powerful action. 😌👍🏻

Consulting with a licensed therapist is always encouraged. Even so, if you're reluctant and not ready to welcome other people in, how about giving that spot to other living beings? 😉

A tender tree that grows and does not grouch at you will stand beside you without shunning. How about a feline friend who purrs instead of preaching to you to do this or that? A canine companion who needs your smiles and does not numb your sanity is a good choice, too! 🌳🐈‍⬛🐕‍🦺

Looking for an outlet that excites your core can be your answer, too. Gaming? I don't see why not, especially if it's a good game. Learning a foreign language may also be your thing. From Spanish to Esperanto, the choices are abundant. Some say Bahasa Indonesia is one of the easiest, and if you're curious to prove that, I'm here to help. 😁

Hey, hiking on a hidden trail toward fields of flowers? Aligning yourself with Mother Nature? I think those will be fun and possess healing power! A good exercise builds your stamina and boosts your dopamine levels, not unlike dancing. Dancing is both a sport and an art. ⛰🤸‍♂️💃

And since we're sashaying to art? Painting with watercolors, strumming a ukulele! Heck, writing a blog LIKE THIS may exercise your artistic touches. 😆🎨🪕✍

(Source: Psych2Go)

There's no fixed, one-stop instant fix for all. A solution that works for me may not work for you. I may no longer feel as lonesome thanks to four things: writing, music, exercise, and my virtual friends. Maybe you'll find yours through different channels or approaches. Nothing is set in stone for this. Explore your passions! BE YOU! ✌🏻😁

But my one advice to you? Remember (or at least, try) to practice an open mind. To embrace whatever comes your way, that will work for you. A grand idea of a solution you think is perfect may never happen. Instead, the answer that comes knocking at your door often differs from anything you expected. But it'll unknowingly be just right for your case. It's an endless possibility. 🙂

Whenever you're ready, muster up your courage to open doors of interaction. Join a community of hobbies or interests in which you might find positive, like-minded people. The same hobbies I mentioned above will do just fine. Nerding out together about upcoming Pokémon games? You'll have a Great Ball with that. Exchanging words of encouragement in a language you learn together may be an exquisite exposition. Collaborating on composing music can strike a satisfying chord. 🎮🗣🎼

You can also try what I do: corresponding with pen pals across the world. It will open your eyes and expand your horizons to different cultures and daily challenges, along with the shocking similarities. You'll see that we may be different, and yet, not so different. 🌏✉🌎

(Source: Dr. Writer Lady)

Wait! Is it that easy?

Well, honestly, not really. 😅

No, it's NOT going to be easy, as people will be people. People can come and go. That's also your cue to start filtering the good from the bad, the noise from the harmony. The freedom is still in your hands. Don't ever forget that. 🙅🏻‍♂️

Many will casually say to you, "It will get better." 👍🏻

On the one hand, perhaps they are right. The motivational sentence came from a place of sincerity based on similar experiences they've overcome. 🤗

But in some cases, they may not be right or as kind as they seem. "It will get better" can be a throwaway line that people will resort to when they're being dismissive. In such a case, it may very well be a mask for "Meh, it couldn't be that bad. You're getting all worked up over nothing." After all, these people don't exactly know the kind of struggles you go through, as they aren't walking in your shoes. Yet, they still have this assumption that they know better. Sadly, this is a reality that does happen, as not every person is equipped with the capacity or empathy to care. 🤷🏻‍♂️😑

Regardless of which category, there's one definite fact. You CAN get stronger and wiser at dealing with your struggles. Whether on your own or through meeting other souls who offer genuine empathy and sympathy, you CAN learn to overcome them. 🙃👆🏻

The world is vast, and there are billions of people going about their days. You may feel alone, and I know how real that is. But if you stop and think about it with a clearer mind? Logically speaking, you're never truly alone. We might all be unique and different individuals. Yet, somewhere, out there, someone knows and understands what kind of hardship you're going through—even if not the entire picture. Or as my penguin pen pal often calls it, "Your people. Your tribe." Your kindred spirit. 😏🙌🏻🤭

Sometimes, you don't even need to try too hard. The right ones—those who genuinely care for you—may come to you instead. When they do, please open your heart and let them in! They will stand by your side, just to be there for you, until you see the light beyond the darkness, to pull you out from the void with compassion. Once you do so, you'll notice that heavy sense of loneliness feels lighter. And as I can attest, they may even return your faith in friendship again. In humanity! Maybe even make you feel loved and ready to love again. 😌🤗

Note: Remember, "they" can refer to more than just "another person." 😉

So if you're reading this and feel alone: Please—DON'T GIVE UP. Have faith that good things will come to you in their time. Keep reaching out. Somewhere along the way, you may find your answer: a sincere soul who SEES you, not as invisible, but as someone who MATTERS DEEPLY. And in time, you may say to one another, "You may be forlorn. But my dear friend, you'll never be forgotten." 😊

(Source: Michael Bublé)

Finely Worded "FINE"

Today's post will not take up much of your time. 😐

It's a short one. 

(Source: ChatGPT)

I had something else planned, a cheeky(?) continuation to my "Fading Connection" ramble. Alas, until last night, that draft was going nowhere. The thought process still wasn't (and, as of this writing, isn't) "there" yet. Maybe because I've felt emotionally drained or exhausted in the past week? 🤔😪

Anyway, I've decided to postpone that piece until next time. What you're reading is a last-minute (or, technically, last-day) something I put together. I'm only here sharing what The School of Life conveniently and tremendously timely posted yesterday, at 3PM my time zone. The simple yet finely worded essay pondered the famous (or infamous) sentence:

"I'm FINE, thank you, and how are you?"

Apart from somehow capturing my situation—and rather blatantly, the content happened to come in line with one part of my original draft for today (I hope that's not confusing to read 😅) that I've somehow had to scrap again. For the second time. Hahaha. 😐

It's this video, right here, from Psych2Go:

(Source: Psych2Go)

Well, let's be REAL. As both sources questioned or pointed out, do we ever really mean it when we say "I'M FINE?" Do people ever do? Naturally, I'd be happy if they genuinely do. That said, it's often just uttered as a verbal cover-up for "I'm not well, but I don't want or too proud to talk about it," or even "Leave me alone to deal with my struggles." Would you agree? 😶

I'm no Saint and have used that line as a quick escape pod (into space) or hatch (from a sinking submarine) myself. Nevertheless, I'm working hard on NOT being—or at least trying not to be—a hypocrite. So, with that spirit in mind, nowadays, if you ask me, "How are you?" Chances are the answer won't be as fine as "Fine." If not a sincere statement of "It's so-so," then it'll be a diplomatic delivery like "I've been worse." 🤷🏻‍♂️😅

Being honest is NOT that hard. And I want to do my best at it. 🙃

Today's the same. 

I'm honestly feeling bummed out that I couldn't finalize, nope, FINISH that draft I've started since last week. Writer's block often came at a very annoying time. 😓

Yet, I'm also giddy that I just watched a new Marvel Studios movie (when this post goes live, I'm likely still on my way home from the theatre). Even if that sudden, also last-day plan inevitably gave birth to this replacement post you're reading. 😅

(Fun fact. The movie seemingly tackles the precise question I'm writing about here. Talk about coincidence. 😲) 

So, yeah. I'm NOT entirely fine. 🤷🏻‍♂️

But that's FINE! Hahaha. 🙂

I'm only human, and that's just how life can be. No? 🤭

(Source: Psych2Go)

Oh, wait. This wraps the first trimester of 2025, huh? 😳

May I see you next month, then? 👋🏻😉

(Source: ChatGPT)

Fake or Fine Work? To AI or Not to AI

If you've been on social media recently—in my case, Threads—you probably have noticed this type of post spreading like swarms of bees to a field of flowers.

(Source: ChatGPT)

YES, that is supposedly me, actually. It's the result of jumping on the bandwagon of the "Make your own stickers" trend. With some extra steps, anyone can excitedly embed and publicly parade the cute visual attachments on communication channels like WhatsApp and Telegram. 😏

Wait, you're telling me you've never heard of it? And you are curious to try! 😲

Feel free to use this super simple Prompt you can copy and paste (like how I merely copy-pasted it from the first post I saw 😅) to OpenAI's ChatGPT. 

"Create a 3D kawaii a 10:16 canvas featuring nine chibi-style stickers in various outfits, poses, and expressions. Use the attached image for reference. Each sticker has a white border and includes a speech bubble with regular use phrases. Set on a soft white-to-pastel blue gradient background for a fun, positive vibe, perfect for WhatsApp use."

So far, I've tried this on ChatGPT, Meta AI, and Google Gemini. ChatGPT, with the most up-to-date engine, seems to deliver better, if not actual, results. Meta AI randomly made up something I didn't even want. Google Gemini? It simply balked at me, as usual, saying, "I am sorry, but I am unable to create images. I cannot fulfill your request to create a 3D kawaii image." Hahaha. 😅🤦🏻‍♂️

What's that, you say? Microsoft Copilot?

Yeah, I tried that, too. But Microsoft Copilot instantly blurred out my face as if it were a forbidden NSFW body part of an adult-oriented image. And then it went on to CORRECT THE GRAMMAR of the Prompt instead. 😌

No. I'm NOT even kidding. 😅

Maybe if I use the Paid, instead of the Free version... 🤔

Anyway, the point is, it was a fun stunt. Useful, even! It adds a flimsy fun to communication with family or friends. But the question that arises from this is written in this writing's title. Can this be considered as a FINE work, or, instead, a FAKE work? 😳🤔

Considering I used my personal selfie and uploaded it to the service with full consent? I'd argue it leans more towards the FINE aspect. Still, upon thinking that I didn't do anything besides uploading the photo and copy-pasting some words? It can also constitute FAKE. Right? 😐🙅🏻‍♂️

This is just one simple sample of how Artificial Intelligence, or AI, for short, has altered the world in recent years. Admittedly, I always hesitated to use AI before. I think it was in 2023 that a mutual acquaintance on social media expressed concern over AI taking over people's work. I assured my acquaintance that no matter how advanced technology grows, it would and could not replicate humanity, nor the heart and soul one can infuse into a work. The human touch! 🧚🏻‍♂️🤍🙆🏻‍♂️

Afterward, I carried on my days holding on to that belief. But then last year, in February 2024, my pen pal from Taiwan persuaded me to try the service. He and his partner had been using ChatGPT to assist their gaming and work. My pen pal said something along the lines of, "Hey, why not turn ChatGPT into your invisible assistant?" 😉

Driven by sheer curiosity, I jumped headfirst into the service. Was it helpful with my work, as my pen pal proposed? Well, yes and no. Yes, because it helped me produce the content I wanted much faster. But also no, because the original content was messy and needed to be verified for consistency with older data, not just from a few months before! Sometimes, the consistency check went back to years prior, which required manual checks using actual examination and literal asking. 😩🙇🏻‍♂️

Note: Now that I think of it more. That arduous manual hurdle may have become very possible to pull off now, actually. I can think of a workaround to bypass the process and streamline it. Basically, I can teach the AI service to imitate my thinking approach. My work is text-based, after all... 🤔

I would be lying if I said I stopped using AI due to that disappointing twist. Quite the contrary, I found an effective use of it. What's that? Helping me subtitle my letter into another language! This refers to the context of my pen pal correspondences. 📧😃👍🏻

Before, I exchanged letters with them using English, regardless of whether none of us spoke that language natively. Now, my letters are delivered in a bilingual format! The main reply remains written in English. But I also include an AI-assisted transliteration in my pen pal's native language and words (e.g., Spanish, Arabic, etc.). This way, my pen pal will not need to translate my letter upon receiving it, as I've already done the task for them. Of course, not all pen pals approve of this method (due to the similar hesitance I used to have). But for the rest who are okay with it, I feel our correspondence has been more convenient. 😆🙌🏻

Hold your horses! Are you suggesting or assuming that means I'm asking AI to write THIS blog/essay that you're reading, too? 🤨

Well, what do you think? Hahaha. 😏

The answer is NO. A definite 100% NO. Even if I use AI, I will not accept such a cheat, as the result may alter the individual characteristics and style of my writing completely. Besides, as many have also pointed out, AI services have specific patterns and even vocabularies they keep using repeatedly. Trust me, the more time you spend using ChatGPT or Google Gemini, the easier it will be to spot any work created with one. "Ethereal," anyone? The word "Tapestry" dropped here and there? Hahaha. 😅

But I'll be frank. I do ask AI to perform one and only one thing: To professionally review my writing afterward and offer suggestions for improvements that I may consider and implement in my next writing. Honestly, we can tweak AI to write a neutral response when we ask it to examine our text-based works. More importantly, it can analyze and compare our creative results to other online resources and pinpoint our strengths and weaknesses. 🔎📃😀

Yes, I can and I do ask the opinions of other people, too. Even so, whoever I ask, the response will always come with a biased or subjective preference. Every human being has a set of subjectivity embedded internally, for better or worse. Friends or family who already know me? They are used to my writing style and may not offer blatant criticism out of compassion—unless they are Dutch? Hahaha. ✌🏻😜

A random stranger may be more subjective. Then again, will they provide constructive criticism if they don't know me, and, as such, couldn't care less about my growth? Despite having its unique biased tendency, AI has no will or conscience. Hence, it can bypass that subjectivity angle. Best of all, the response will be produced in minutes. ⏱🤯

Okay, you're not convinced that this blog post isn't AI-generated? 😒

In that case, I told Google Gemini to read my previous blog posts and write a paragraph about "apples." Here's the generated result:

"Apples. They're just there. In bowls, on counters, in those plastic bags that always seem too big. You buy them. Thinking, 'healthy.' You bite. It's fine. Sometimes, it's a little mealy. Sometimes, it's surprisingly crisp. The skin sticks in your teeth. You tell yourself it's fiber. You consider making a pie. Then, you remember you don't actually like making pies. More dishes. More time. Time you don't have. You eat another apple. Because it's there. Because it's something. Because, well, fruit. You throw the core away. It hits the bottom of the trash with a dull thud. Another thing done. Or, not done. Just...processed."

So, what do you think? Did Google Gemini's generated essay resemble this writing? 😅

The vibe feels different, somehow. Would you agree? 😌

And, seriously, a word like "crisp" or a phrase like "dull thud" may not even pop up naturally in my head. That part alone is already telling me "That's NOT me." ✋🏻😬

(Source: My YouTube channel)

Besides acting as a reviewer, nowadays, I've been regularly using AI for the videos posted on my YouTube channel. As you may have noticed, I write/type a lot. ChatGPT helps to shorten the description I've prepared to fit the word limits. Meanwhile, Google Gemini helps to produce visuals (like the one I included above). For the record, my YouTube page is a "Music Diary," a song cover channel. That means the AI image I generate merely helps depict a visual I feel can represent the song choice. 🎵😁

My reason for doing so is that AI services usually do not (maybe it can, but I don't know how) generate the same carbon-copy result of the same Prompt. That makes each visual unique in its own way. To prevent the AI from stealing the likeness of a random person, the visual I instruct generally hides the person's face. This way, the visual, hopefully, has not violated anyone's privacy or copyright properties, since the content or elements inside those images are not and never were real. 😲🙏🏻

Hmmm...

That's where things get a little murky and complicated, though. Because if we're speaking about copyright, the fact at hand is that AI has become and still IS a genuine concern. There's a valid reason why many people have openly voiced, sounding the alarms to not let AI "steal" their jobs. That well-known 148-day WGA strike, followed by a 118-day SAG-AFTRA strike in 2023? It included AI on the list of its demands, citing how it can one day replace actors and writers' creative presence. Research and analysis on how AI is unleashing copyright infringement risks can be found often. For example, you can watch this insightfully alarming video posted by CNA Insider or thorough reporting by 60 Minutes. 

(Source: CNA Insider)

(Source: 60 Minutes)

Think of it this way. Generative AI is called that way for a reason. It doesn't generate things out of thin air. Generative AI uses the vast collection of information circulating around cyberspace instead. It studies and learns from blog posts, journals, photography snaps, artwork, and designs that people have uploaded, are uploading, and will upload on social media. We are TOO accustomed to sharing things so casually, giving away the privacy of those materials in mere minutes. Therefore, ANY AI services will have access to those for their learning process. 😟🤷🏻‍♂️

Hold on. Have I been feeding AI data surrounding my likeness by uploading my photos, then? Am I teaching them to write like me, simply by posting on my blog?😱🤦🏻‍♂️

The answer to such rhetoric is, unfortunately, YES. Well, to be fair, I know FULL WELL that putting this blog out there means exposing myself to the public. In a way, it IS my desire to share my opinion or rants with the world. 😅

But I'm not gonna lie. The thought that someone, somewhere, out there, has just generated an essay based on my writing style for his/her school homework, or created an imaginary image who looks a lot like me in real life? It does feel creepy. 😰

Furthermore, it will take them only a few minutes to pull off using several jumbled sentences that don't even need to be grammatically accurate (remember the Kawaii Chibi Prompt that Microsoft Copilot fixed above?). AI services CAN do that. The result may look super FINE. But no matter how we see it, it's FAKE and not real. 🙄🤷🏻‍♂️

Just take a look at this example below. 👀

(Source: Google Gemini)

I played around on Google Gemini to create that image, describing the details of the scene and the person, including the precise clothing the person wore. 

Ugh, Google Gemini is a PAIN to work with. Then again, after repeated attempts, a better result eventually came out. If I show that photo above to my family members? They might likely wonder, "When did you travel to the beach? Where was it?" That's an almost spitting image of how I look daily! 😳

Where did I make that image? With my phone, lazing on my bed, wearing none of those clothes. 🙄🤦🏻‍♂️

One day, when AI has reached its higher form, it may even replace the needs of certain people altogether. Mythic Quest poked fun at this in the second episode of its fourth and final season. Poppy Li and Ian Grimm, the two lead characters, created AI bots of themselves to work with one another while the real people focused on their private time elsewhere. 😂🤭

Meanwhile, a year ago, Abbott Elementary's third season included a similar AI twist on its ninth episode. But while it was an enjoyable episode, I agree with the sentiment that it failed to touch on or at least reflect on the bigger situation. AI usage has been an ongoing, or should I add, dilemmatic, topic of discussion in the academic field. 😤😐🙄

As a former educator, I knew firsthand the creative ways students would go to lengths to make their learning "easier." Based on friends who are still actively teaching, those methods have persisted, if not evolved, in modern times. Thus, I can relate to the concerns discussed in the article. Having a handy AI that's mere button clicks and Prompts away will make any school assignment easier. Will that reduce the students' capabilities for creative thinking? 😬😨

Some schools have taken serious action for this. Heck, countries like Singapore and Australia even went deeper to the root of the issue. While AI might not be their primary goal, the ease of online access would inevitably lead to AI usage anyway. I must admit, I agree with their approach, allowing modern kids to spend their childhood beyond the shackles of virtual confinement. 🤔👍🏻

Note: The irony is that a local, popular, private school went all in on using AI during their education fair, promoting it heavily. That was undeniably an unsettling experience to see. 😱 

Yet, on the other side of the equation, you probably have sensed a growing market for AI courses. This CNET article, teaching us to be better and more efficient at using AI services, is a good example. It was figuratively thrown into my eyes on January 23 by Google, which somehow loves recommending things to me (due to using Google Gemini?). Just now, YouTube shoved ads for several AI learning centers to my face. I wasn't even looking for it. 😐🤦🏻‍♂️

 AI is everywhere. To state otherwise would be massive misinformation or dumb denials. We've heard how Pokémon GO has been accused of making players train Niantic's Geospatial AI. Duolingo now enforces AI to enhance practice sessions through its new paid subscription, Duolingo Max. Do you know the free, online Digital Audio Workstation BandLab? It has a handy AI feature called Voice Cleaner that can theoretically allow you to record vocals even in the noisiest environment. I admit, I'm super curious to try it if it's not locked behind the premium subscription plan. My point is AI can help people do A LOT of things that might warrant many, longer years to manually complete, such as upscaling a movie to 16K resolution—even if the result may end up in an uncanny valley experience. 😅

So, how should we approach this whole AI approach? Is it really beneficial for us, or should the dark, terrifying side scare us instead? That's a question that will be answered differently, depending on our subjective stance on the matter. 🙆🏻‍♂️🤔🙅🏻‍♂️

In reality, ANYTHING in this world, even the simplest object like a pebble on the road, can be used for good or bad. A pebble can be stacked to build a sturdy wall or used as a weapon to attack smaller living beings. Don't forget the Biblical story of David using a mere pebble to defeat Goliath and bring victory to his country, while stepping on a random one on the street could make us lose balance, fall, and even fracture a femur. It truly depends on HOW we utilize them—for a benevolent business or malevolent means. 🙂🤷🏻‍♂️

The same applies to AI, which, no matter the ginormous level of processing, is still very much a human invention. What if we enforce AI to assist or streamline our work, WITHOUT ever losing our distinct signature footprint? Then I arguably agree that the AI and the result CAN be considered FINE work. Still, human beings being human, such a mindset isn't always the case, huh? People end up exploiting AI, such as the issue of students skipping work to complete homework, without maintaining their sense of personality in the results. That's the aspect I'm not too fond of, honestly. With proper management, even an AI-assisted result CAN still retain our unique human signatures. 👏🏻😌

A brush in the hand of a regular laborer is used to paint walls. But in the hands of an artist, it can create a masterpiece that may sell for millions. Maybe we should consider AI the same way. Instead of treating it as a tool to do the work dirty, it should be optimized to enhance or enrich our work. As a well-known tech inventor once said, "It's not the tools that you have faith in—tools are just tools. They work, or they don't work. It's people you have faith in or not."

Lastly, I agree with Professor Graham Morehead's wisely stated and advised words in his WIRED "AI Support" video.

"You gotta think about AI as your expert friend who knows a lot, but has some bad misconceptions. So you don't trust everything. If I were you, I would use it a lot and trust it very little."

(Source: WIRED on YouTube)

I encourage you to watch that video as Prof. Morehead talks casually and simplistically about everything AI. If you're like me and occasionally think that AI is dumb (lack of consistency as I noted above) or oddly biased? There IS an answer to that! Prof. Morehead also covered the origin of AI (which started as far as 1956!!), the ways their thinking processes are FINE-tuned, the difference from Machine Learning, how to spot their FAKE-ness, what it logically lacks, and many more—including the potential if not possibility for even more advanced future applications.

With that, it feels apt to end this post with another perfect, well-crafted statement from Prof. Morehead (he had so many, it's hard to choose. Did I just become his fan? Hahaha 😃).

"It's gonna be harder and harder to avoid AI. AI is everywhere... 

You don't have to use AI, you can live your life and write your own essays, do your own homework. And I encourage you to do that."

Yes, I WILL, Professor! Most definitely. 🙋🏻‍♂️

And, well, would you look at that! I didn't even need AI to respond... 😆👍🏻  

(Source: ChatGPT)